Often times I find myself fantasizing, if that's even a good word for it, to my mom on what kinda wife or mom I will be someday.
Her opinion and mine never quit match up. As silly as that sounds. haha.
Sometimes She says I will be an irresponsible mother, I always have to remind her that mother hood is years down the road for me, and plus, with a mom like her, I can always send my kids to her for their "Fix-Ups" ;)
Then she tells me that marriage life is something you learn as your married, and then, something I have heard from many woman, marriage is "Harder then you think"
Quite frankly, I believe that its hard, I mean how can dying to self and living sacrificially for another be..."Easy." Well, Something I DO KNOW is God knows the desires of my heart as far as 'How I wanna conduct myself and what kind wife and mother I desire to be' And, I believe if i continue to seek him, he will fulfill that and make that marriage life "easy and Enjoyable" :)
You see, I was reading through the new testament and I came to Titus 2. Ahh yes, You all now know where I am going with this blog.
Basically I have many many thought on the passage and even listened to a sermon on it just the other night. Therefore, I just have to share my thoughts and challenge the older woman with WHO they Biblically NEED to and are SUPPOSED to be. Challenge the younger woman/girls...*ahem* me, With what we need to be, and challenge the men (if I have any male readers) of what kind of wife you should look for....A biblical one. As seen below.
Now I feel kinda weird writing a blog on this saying I am Not an "Older woman", I am not married, or even in a relationship for that matter, and i am not a man looking for a wife, But, I do feel everything God has taught me and is showing me is biblical and really cool, hence, me sharing. :)
Titus 2: 3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine,but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can Train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be submissive to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live,
What is reverence?
Reverence is being Appropriate. A reverent Woman has a Meek and quiet spirit. Now This does not mean she has no personality, because, quite frankly, if that's what It meant, I would have a TON of work to do. It is more referring to an Under-control, wise, personality. A Reverent woman does not draw attention to herself. This is not just referring to dress but also refers to words and actions.
However, A woman dresses the way she feels clearly shows what she thinks is most important thing about herself.
A Reverent woman Conduct ones self in a way that brings God honor, Not self satisfaction. She also Conducts self with understanding of Gods KNOWING and ALL SEEING presence.
teach what is good.
The woman is the primary instructor. A Woman not committed to teaching IN HOME isn't valuable. Children need hands on Education and DISCIPLESHIP. Now I dont think this is stating the fact that "If you aren't homeschooling, Your not a good mom". I Do believe tho that God clearly states that "A child should be brought up in the way that he should go." and what better way to show them then by schooling them on your own, building character, relationships and discipleship.
love their husbands and children With an AGAPE, Christ like, sacrificial Love.
Love is an act of the will accompanied by action on behalf of its object.
- Voddie Bauchman
Selfcontroled - Again, Reverence.
Pure- Purity is not " not sexually "taking it all the way"" Purity is an action, thought, The way you live and carry ones self. The way you show feelings and emotion.
Live in a blameless way.
Busy at Home...No priority supersedes her priority of home. Home is her "place to work". Her job is to Shape WORLD CHANGERS.
If a Woman does her role, man can do his to full potential then together raise and grow AS MANY ARROWS to Gods Glory. - Voddie
This War is real and God isn't saying "have an "American family" (1 girl for her, 1 guy for him) "Give me as Little ammunition as you can". No, He wants a HUGE army and he wants them sharp and well trained == discipleship.
Kind and Submissive -
A woman has a hard time with submission to her husband because of two things.
1- Pride, and 2- lack of Submission is how our culture was raised.
Woman, in this generation, were raised like men who are biologically capable to have children. They conduct themselves like men, Loud, Inappropriate, through their conduct and dress, un-submissive, having to care for self and work way to the TOP.
- Voddie Bauchman
God has so much to say about what A BIBLICAL woman of Himself really is. Not only "looks like" but truly "IS."
I pray Older woman in the church will live in this way and also "Teach younger Woman (me) TO BE..."
I want to SEE what it looks like and be Taught how to do it.